After Thanksgiving

I feel like that photo of me in the summer, I have so much to do but the train I want to get on is no where in sight! I am proper busy right now planning a fashion show for my Uni's EcoVersity Organization (gently used pieces, vintage clothing, re-constructed vintage and eco-friendly labels)! The budget is proper massive gotta bring it DOWN! But its been fun so far finding vintage pieces and rummaging through Charity shops to put together various looks (if you live in London and know some spots, get at me!).....Its gonna be a great experience. I feel like a Buyer, Designer, and Stylist....I Love it! I have experience working in shows but spear heading the entire thing on a big level like this?!?!? I have never done! But its definitely gonna be the best show Bradford has ever seen, that's my word! Pharmacy school and fashion will be hard to juggle but I got this!!!! The Show is scheduled for next year February, will keep you posted on the progress. I just gotta start studying more...Exams are around the corner! GASP!

As per Thanksgiving I was soooo upset like proper upset. Tell me why (in ghetto twang) The OBAMAS! Came to my job in the states: Martha's Table?!?!? On thanksgiving eve! My Boss bbmed me saying that Barack and Michelle are at the Table! I was soooo angry! Something told me to go home for Thanksgiving and Black Friday. The next day I got more news that made me regret staying in the UK and not skipping lectures even more (if it wasn't for pharmacy school and this whole fitness to practice new ordeal! I would have been OUT!). Anyway another friend bbmed me saying she just met this celeb, someone I absolutely LOVE! I was like which kind injustice be this one! Ah ah wetin I do? Anyway its cool to mellow my mood I got a surprise over the phone that made me feel better! If I told you, you wouldn't believe me so what's the point?

Anyway although I spent yet another Thanksgiving away from Family and Friends I am still thankful and counting my many blessings. I am still pissed about not meeting the Obamas but I am happy my teens and my co-workers met them, I can't be too selfish right? SO what are you thankful for?

On another note my one year anniversary is next week with HIM. And I have no idea what to get him :(, I was gonna do this one thing, but my guy friends started laughing and said if a babe did that for me I go ja! I laughed but shoot I may still get him what I wanted, forget what they said! So I am back to square one. Any suggestions? And my 25th birthday is around the corner as well....gessh! Funny enough I just feel like chilling nothing big really. Dinner maybe and drinks, nothing bigger than that really. . . Maybe for 30!?

I hope you all had a blessed Thanksgiving. and for all you who indulged in Black Friday....what'd you get? Cause I heard there were mega sales as usual! Until Next Time! I hope you're having a great weekend!

Deuces
Ag

Mood: Blessed
I-Pod Tune: "He Heals Me" - India Arie

I Love My Nigerian Men But....

So my last post kinda caused some 'drama.' Elle Woods you know I always got love for you & it will never die! And Leggy honestly no harsh feelings just a blog innit? Trying to comically make light of what I see around me, everyone has their own opinions. We all have some superficial tendencies but those who know me know I am far from it and as real as can it can get! Funny enough my friend Mocha bbmed me saying my blog was kinda harsh and if she didn't know me she would have thought I was mean and not the kind hearted girl I am...sigh. I was just telling it how I see it. I in no way meant to call anyone ugly or what have you, just knew my friends taste and was trying to match him up with something he'd like. Well enough of that....now to the Nigerian MEN....

DRUM ROLL!

Sigh. Sigh and a deep sigh. Okay I love my Nigerian men their swag, how they dress, the way the GOOD ones treat their mothers and wives, and raise their children, and just try to make an HONEST living for themselves. I love men like my Father. And I would be so honored to meet, and I have, and marry a man like my Nigerian Father. With that being said let me tell you what freaking irks me about Nigerian Men!

First and foremost CHEATERS!!! I just don't understand Nigerian Men. For example in MD right. There are so many good girls dating bastards! WHAT!?!?!?!? Like I don't get! You have this nice girl, who comes from a good family, cooks for you 24/7, washes your draws (I digress), cleans your crib, gives you support, prays for you, goes to church, is respectful to your family and etc... a proper good girl. And these guys just do them DIRTY! Cheat, and cheat, and CHEAT! It pisses me OFF! It's so disrespectful! Because I have so many Nigerian male friends in MD, I have been seeing the unfortunate 'good girl syndrome' since I was 17. It made me scared to date for along time I swear and it breaks my heart.

These guys know they have a good girl, proper wifey material and start cheating then trying to play mind games with these girls to make them insecure or believe that they are soo faithful and good chaps that are gonna marry them. I don't understand why Nigerian Guys stay with these good girls when they aren't ready to get married and they string these girls along because they believe they are God's gift to women! And they swear these girls don't know they are cheating, and sadly at times the girls that don't know actually are naive to their man's cheating tendencies. However, then there are girls that know and wait hoping and praying he will change so he will marry her...BULLSHIT! Is marriage by force (that should be another blog) Argghh! And sadly these Nigerian Men know this. They stay with the good girl saying she deserves to get married to me, or she's been there for me or she's from a good family so that is instant future contracts, money or etc.... Okay she's been there for you but have you been there for her? and Who the hell are you to say she deserves to marry you?!?! She is lucky to be marrying a guy that could possibly one day bring her home a gift of chlamydia, herpes or even worse HIV???! God FORBID! I pray that will never come my way, my sisters way, or my daughters way in JESUS NAME! Pisses me off.

Then you have grown Nigerian Men who are married with 3 to 4 kids and chasing young girls in the clubs and parties, granted some girls may sleep with older guys for monetary reasons, this is known across nationalities. But I don't understand Nigerian men and this cheating syndrome GROW UP! Its like so many young and old do not know what the meaning of a faithful committed relationship is anymore. And this indirectly trickles down to their daughters because they see how they're fathers behave and to their sons, and the cycle continues. The boys grow up thinking cheating is normal and girls accept cheating from men or are too paranoid to date and/or trust a man because they saw their fathers cheat on their mothers. There are many Great Faithful Nigerian Men out there don't get me wrong but these men are men that are God-fearing, because they know if they do wrong by their wives they will have to answer to God. That is why I can only date a God-Fearing man. Temptation will come oh! Granted!! But it takes a strong and God-Fearing not only Good man, to resist temptation and think about their families. A lot of Nigerian Men don't seem to do this!

Like how can you be out and about partying with random girls, and your wife is at home pregnant with your child. Then sleep these girls and come home by 5a.m. to say I love you to your wife and act like this great husband! Funny thing is if these women were to cheat on these men the men would faint! They just couldn't take it! I am not saying two wrongs make a right but when one girl cheated on her cheating boyfriend, they guy wan die! As in AH! It seems as if the guy don go kolo! I even hear sef that he stopped cheating in the future with his next girlfriend because he was soo heart broken! haa haa! I know that sounds wicked but he no know the kind of pain he was causing his babe. But the question I even asked myself when I heard the story was why did both of them even stay together? You are both cheating on each other so obviously you are not satisfied with each other, so why not just break it off? Yea yea yea some people say things can be more complicated than you think! BS, i believe happiness is more important and if you are constantly cheating on someone you're obviously not happy and something is missing so just go! I can't stand MEN who CHEAT!!!! PERIOD!

Now to the ODU/419 guys. The "flashy" guys and I wonder what is the point? You are so bait. You are being flashy attracting babes that obviously only want you for your money because when your ass was broke they didn't send. I've seen Nigerian guys go down and it gets ugly. And if you have that Green Passport please believe Deportation is not far behind. So why risk it? Most times these guys are SMART guys no Brilliant guys, in UNI but are too lazy or proud to get a job so start doing nonsense and then get caught. For what? All to impress!?!? Then they sell out everyone involved!

There is this joke that you need to watch Nigerian Men who you do ODU with because if he can not do without his Rice and Stew, Eba and Egusi soup with assorted meat; he is gonna be crying pleas after one day of being served Macaroni and Cheese and Lasagna. Saying to the cops, "Sia (sir) his name is Baba and he lives on 43rd street, and the other one em his name is Chika, ehn he lives on 86th street, what what else do you want? I just want Pounded Yam and Vegetable soup oh, i no fit eat this food for inside here!" LMAO!!!!

Okay okay let me stop joking but on the real I really don't understand the 419er's and I love that their flashiness gives them away at times. Just walk up to one on them one day at a party the flashy dressed guys with stunners on, popping bottles like he's Gucci Man getting wasted, and with his fake British or American accent. And ask them what they do....."I do business!" Ah shit Red alert! no go no go!!!!! Girl run for you life! Unless you want that type of life I mean some do right? But if you do don't get caught up in the hype and then get Chanel cuffs as a gift (handcuffs the CC'S). I really hate the 419'ers because they continue to give Nigerians a bad name. I don't condone 419ing, but if you are gonna do it be smart, get it while you can, don't be flashy and greedy, and eventually stop!

Finally I hate guys that try to hard to be something they are not! I call them Swagger Jackers. A swagger jacker (SJ) is someone who tries hard to have this effizzi about them like there a big boy that pops bottles in the club, drives a benz or lexus, lips his lips when he's talking to babes, has this wanna be pimp walk, forms this accent and has to wear flamboyant brands so the whole world knows he is wearing GUCCI, LV, or PRADA! I laugh inside at these guys i swear. I am like honestly who are you fooling, why are you posing. We all know Nigerian guys generally have a sexy ass swag about them but the swagger jackers that try to hard to impress their boys and get babes just annoy me, it actually makes my skin cringe. I would respect a corny guy that is himself more than and SJ. I mean I love labels like the next person, but the labels don't make me! It seems that these guys have insecurity issues and I run far from them because its like they have something to prove abi? I don't know maybe I am just 'hating' on these guys. But then again I am not because these are guys I would never date or recommend ,my friend or even worse enemy to date.

In short I love my Nigerian Men hands Down! I want to marry one and have a blessed Nigerian Family in the future, Igbo, Urhobo, Yoruba it doesn't matter, our men possess this 'swag' and confidence in them that I have yet to see in men of other cultures. Plus I love seeing a Nigerian Man in his traditional wear I swear that it is sexy!!! (of course some can look very local oh!). But I hate absolutely hate Nigerian men that are CHEATERS!, 419ers, or SJ's-Swagger jackers! It takes away from the integrity of the good Nigerian guys that I love. Thanks Daddy for being a good example of a Nigerian Man!

I hope you guys are having a lovely weekend.
Until next time,

Ag

Mood: Focused
I-Pod Tune: Usher-Papers

I Don't Understand Nigerian Babes

I spoke to Mr. Swagger today and the guy is very much enlightened and focused, adding to his swag. If only I had a proper Nigerian friend to introduce him to! Shoot! Speaking of Nigerian babes. This is the second time I am seeing a guy that I would like to introduce a girl to. The first was my boyfriends Uni friend from Nigeria. And I told him don't worry I'll introduce you to a babe in yankee when I land. Well we all went out. Dayo, him and I at a club in D.C. a non-nigerian night. very refreshing and interesting listening to all that ignorant music, Piles, Ron Brownz, Fly, and etc.... lol, and I was saddened because I honestly couldn't think of anyone.

Now most of my close friends are taken. So of course I couldn't introduce him to any of them, and you know you have to introduce a correct babe because it is a reflection of you indirectly. And what if they end up getting serious and problems arise, na me he go blame oh! lol. So out of all my other Nigerian female friends I couldn't think of any. Seriously....

Either they were just getting out of a relationship. i.e. still have baggage and trying to get back on their feet, are High maintance or money conscience (what does he do? How much does he make? what kind of car does he have? I couldn't help but think. Ah ah don't you have a JOB!) , are too pressed to get married so they behave somehow (u all have a friend that is so pressed to get married that they don't even act like themselves again.), or this one chick I was like oh snap I forgot about her...but I didn't know her status because we heard she used to date one guy like this. And you don't wanna introduce a babe to a guy that is still in love with someone else. The other babes were either not cute enough (sorry yes I thought this) the guy na fine bo-bo how I go introduce him to a facially challenged girl, were current 'good girls' but had a past, and etc...

Oneday I began talking to a couple of mutal Nigerian Females. And I was like specifically in MD. Is this the pool of girls that Nigerian guys of today have to choose from to become future wives? If so, man this is bad! I too often find the girls so pressed to get married its disgusting. Now of course I would love to marry my boyfriend in the future, I mean at my age I can't just be dating anyone, but I am not behaving like someone I am not nor am I fronting to be somebody I am not.

He knows I have a pyscho side (ok not the whole kolo side but its coming out small small), he knows I swear at times, he has seen my many temper tantrums, he knows I have a serious spending habit that I am now curving, he knows I will speak my mind to anybody anyhow, he knows that I don't send some elders and at times I can be rude... But for all the negative sides of me there are positive points about me that will out wiegh the bad. You see no relationship or marriage is perfect but you learn to tolerate his bs and he yours if you geniunely love each other. And I think too many time naija babes try to be this perfect girlfriend and wait out for the ring and when they get married they start to reveal their real sides and problems arise. And it pisses me off!!! I have seen it happen to a few friends. Dont' get me wrong oh I have the Nigerian Guys post up next and wooo-weee I can't wait. Some nigerian guys are bastards I swear and the girls that stay with them are equally dunce and dumb!

Anyway then their Nigerian girls that are so much on a levels thing. They must date so and so's son. be friends with so and so's daughter, and then front like they are wearing some top designers and ish when we all shop at the same stores jor! I swear I have very few nigerian female friends in this jand because many of them have this levels complex, and are at times jealous or shady. It irks me. I mean why can't you just be friends with people and date people because you like them and have things in common? Not because she is from America, or because he is so and so's son, or because she dresses nice (I go borrow her baths! really? not mine oh!) as in the number of nigerian babe characters I have met in this Bradford never ceases to amaze me, and I know I go meet more, to make my days in bradford even funny and train my future daughters to never behave like them. I love my Nigerians! Honestly I do, but sometimes ya'll, yes ya'll, got issues!

At times, I don't get why some nigerian babes no like me oh! For example (this has happened many times) one of my guy friends will introduce me to a babe which just land and I say hey, wassup, as in (for those of you who watched Jenifa) and they just shun me. Inside I am like haba! But outside I am cool. My boyfriend always ask y do you have so many nigerian paddies he calls them my bradford boyfriends, until one day he witnessed me being nice to a nigerian girl and the girl again shunning me. He was like maybe they are intimidated by you and don't know what to say. I roll my eyes and think bullshit! I don't get.

And last but definitely not least Nigerian BABES PLEASE I am BEGGING YOU!!! Esp. in JAND! Make sure your weaves look as real as possible. I have seen the worst weaves of my life in this Bradford oh. and some in London. My sister and her friend came last spring and said why do all the girls hair looked jacked. I said I don't know! And honestly I don't know, but its very embarassing. for example if you don't have edges again, why you dey do weave on that doesn't cover your tracks? Or why do you buy Remi Super-Duper Straight and you need a perm? and why do people cut their fringes/bangs on their weaves two centimeters below their hairline....It should cover your EYEBROWS or at least touch! I just don't get it, I just don't...So yes I am Nigerian....but at many times...

I Just don't understand us Nigerian Babes at times. What's your take?

Dueces

Ag

Mood: About to study!!! Whoo-hoo?
I-Pod Tune: 'Gimme Twenty Dollars'- Ron Brownz

MR. SWAG

Hey everybody. How was your week?! Mine?! FAb, just getting used to Btown again.

First things first! Have you ever met a guy and their swagger was off the freaking CHI_ZAAANNN! Oh my God I remember when I was a Sophomore at HU rolling with the 'Bigger Babes' my 'older sisters' fresh on the Naija scene. I met this guy at, what was it called?, yes, Juste Lounge. And OMO his swagger was off the freaking RADAR! Oh my LORD JESUS! he wasn't even that fine sef, just his swag how we walked, facial hair shaved and cut to a tee, how he talked, how he dressed, and how he just looked into your eyes and you knew he wanted you and only you (okay not the last part but you get my drift! LMAO!) I couldn't explain the swagger this guy possessed.

For all you Nigerians on here you know our men possess a certain swag but this guys swagger was just on another level, I swear. Anyway at my tender age of 19 I should not have been in that club anyway, and my 'older sister's' said his swag was too much for me to handle and wouldn't allow it! So anytime I would see him I would just say hello, although I was infatuated inside and would walk away.

I saw him again at another party and the ultimate happened ... His friends tried to holla at me 'the fresh meat' I was unschooled back then so I gave both of them my numbers. I am disgusted at my teen antics, what did I think that would make him jealous?!?!! So childish sigh. Anyway i never talked to the friends jor. Years later I saw his friend at a Femi concert, with his fiance and I said congrats! He said he was graduating from Med School. If I was a Gold Digger I would would have been like DAMN!!!! But I didn't send. He invited me to his grad party and Dayo and I attended. Long story short, MR. SWAGGER was there in full effect! And his swag was still there! He came to our table and said hello but we left early because we had other places to attend. And that was the last I saw of Mr. Swagger.

Until Last week on facebook I was checking friend invites and stumbled on my friends photo and saw Mr. Swagger in full effect. Again I was like DAMN! It's like his freshness and swagger increased beyond measure! I could see it even on the Internet, lol. So i just shot him a message saying hello long time, he asked how i was, i did the same and that was that. I mean I am settled in the men arena...

So It made me think. Could I actually date a man with that much SWAG? When I was a tween I would loved it. But now..... Nope! Couldn't fathom it. Its like he would be like don't eat that, your Luella skirt won't fit properly. Or you know some guys just attract babes, they are babe magnets. Not that I'd be insecure but it would eventually get to any girl, you get me. And yea Every GIRL wants to be the STAR! lol (Joke!) So on being 're-uniting' with Mr. Swag I began to think I am happy I took my girls advice....or maybe they knew more and were being the protective big sisters I needed back then to get to where I am today. With someone who has swag but not so much that it screams. But I can't lie his swag, till this day is sick!

So what is swag to you? And we all have had a Mr. Swag in our lives......Who was yours?Well Gotta run. Have a Wonderful weekend and I'll holla at you later.

P.s. Happy Birthday to my Little sister Tejiri! Happy 21st!

Deuces,

AG

Mood: Happy

I-Pod Song: 'Strong Thing' - Banky and for the ignorant music 'Swag and Surf' - F.L.Y.

HEY Young WORLD...I'M BACK!

Hey YOUNG WORLD!!!

I shouldn't have left you for soooo long without a updated blog to read, but I'm back. I didn't plan to be gone for so long it just happened! Had an interesting chilled but amazing summer. Just started UNI this week third year pharmacy and I tell you I will try my best not to go on another hiatus like i just did, it won't be easy with tougher courses and placement but I'll try. However, it was a much needed break from the blog world. I was working growing, learning, traveling (that photo is from Crete, Greece it was beautifully breathe taking) and living life. Will Update you on what I've done this summer, and life now as the weeks progress. Thanks to everyone who kept inquiring about me and I will be hitting up my favorite blogs momentarily.

I've missed Blogville and I hope you missed me too! (I know you did admit it, *wink*) now its time to get back to business, whatever that means. Live, Life with LOVE!



T.G.I.F.- Thank God its Friday and Thank God I'm FRESH!
Deuces & KISSES!




The ONE and ONLY,
AG



Mood: Estactic- Feels good to be back
I-Pod Tune: 'T.G.I.F.' - Kid Cudi

Know Your Boundaries

So my weekend was well, just another ole weekend to me honestly. I love that I didn't work on friday and I got PAID! I love American HOLIDAYS! Sales like MAD! Victoria Secret, Bath & Body Works, Loehmann's and the Thrift Store even gave up some holiday spirit I did great (coped a vintgae Gucci Duffle and Ferragamo's I was in BLISS! lol) One thing I have loved and miss about good ole YANKEE!

So, in other aspects of my weekend people have learned that I don't reveal certian aspects of my life to people that I think you have no business knowing. If I feel you can't give me good advice on my issues in my life, I am not gonna tell. you. anything! And I decide this by listening to how you talk and rational and look at how you are living your life. I am not judging but observing if there are any similarities in how we operate in our day to day lives, or if there are any things in your life that I may admire and in that case I will seek advice from you.

For example for those of you who read my blog I talk about him, on here from time. So a lot of my guy friends and even my some of my girl friends don't know the logistics of our relationship....and honestly they never will. I would rather talk about a jerk from my past with some people than talk about him, because I feel its none of your business. During a cookout I attended this weekend a couple of my guy friends were 'schooling' me on relationships. And some aspects of what they were saying I took note of, other aspects I could not because I wasn't giving them full details about him and I, and honestly, I told them, "why should I tell you my business?" The response was because we're your 'older brothers' so being the smart babe I am, I asked one of my new 'older brothers' a question about his relationship and he was silent. I then replied EXACTLY!

So you see I value most of my friends, and I always will, however, I know who and what to tell about certain aspects of my life. And I think that is all about valuing the relationship you are in, being honest with him, and knowing your boundaries. And sadly some people may not know there boundaries, so you have to show and tell them what they are. Don't go around telling the demographics and drama of your life to everyone around you because some people may not have your best intentions at heart...and honestly it's none of there business.

On a lighter note I think I am getting OLD! I like staying home, chilling with the family or just lounging around. Haven't fancied clubbing, or partying lately. My cousin's friend had his 25th birthday last week on the same day as Femi's Concert and I opted to not go to either, This weekend the babes went out on saturday night, I opted to go home. I AM GETTING OLD BEFORE MY TIME HELP!!! LOL. I will shake this 'old phase out!

Here are some more Pics from Moyin's Finishing Touches saga. She is a great friend! Love ya MO (Well on the weekends, ;)! Only positivity and success from here!

Hope you had a lovely weekend and for all you shopaholics I hope you collected some timeless, peices with the 4th of JULY sales. Dueces.

Ag

Mood: Happy

I-Pod Tune: "(M.I.L.K.) Must Be" - Loose Kaynon ft MI

Finishing Touches- Behind the Scenes

So I had a marvelous weekend! I hope you did as well! I took pictures for my girl Moyin of Finishing Touches to help with her portfolio of her stylish skills (she really needs to start a blog) who is a stylist and helps to style shows and brings her own pieces, and also reinvents vintage pieces that she sales! So being the great friend that I am I went before the show to document her work...putting my Photography Minor to work! I can't put all the photos up. Here is part one of the photographic series!

Finishing Touches Behind the Scenes

Some of Finishing Touches Accessories Moyin at work trying to finalize various styles for the models

The Final Look of one Model!

Until next time, Part Two of Finishing Touches Behind the Scenes..Deuces.

Ag


Mood: Stylistic
I-Pod Tune: "Pretty Wings"- Maxwell (I absolutely love this SONG!!!!).